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  • #LIFELESSONS

    During a psychology workshop I attended recently, the speaker asked "if you could prevent one event in your life from ever happening, what would you change?" My mind started resurfacing some of my darker memories. Memories stained with so much pain, I blocked them out for years.

    But the events that ultimately lead up to these.... Would I delete them from my history?

    When I was in treatment for anorexia, one of my therapists ran a group session called The Miracle Question. The question was "if you woke up tomorrow & everything was perfect, what would your life look like?" I couldn't tell you much more about this activity, because I dissociated from it completely. I was overwhelmed by feelings of hurt & fury, and I refused to participate. "How dare these people ask me to think about how far from ideal my life is? How does this help me???" I thought.

    Back then, I was living in a state of avoidance & denial. My brain was saturated with depression & my life didn't feel worth living, so I spent most of my days living in the past, dissociating from reality & depending on my ED to pass the time.

    Thankfully, ALOT has changed since then. Like learning to drive, my recovery didn't really start until I was discharged from treatment. It hasn't been a smooth process, but discovering Radical Acceptance really helped me.
    Life may well be easier if certain things had/hadn't happened. But my experiences have shaped me into the person I am today & I'm learning to accept this person as she is. There are still times when I wish things were different, but holding on to "what ifs" takes energy. And personally, I'd rather use that energy to make the most of the life I've been given.

    I didn't answer the speakers question at the time, either. But this time it wasn't due to disengagement or anger; I was lost in contemplation of how much my mindset had changed since that group session... So, here's my reformed answer: "I have memories I never want to relive, but my past has lead me to where I am today. My life isn't perfect, but every darkness I've endured has also brought me light, and I love my light. I wouldn't risk any of that by changing my past."
  • #LIFELESSONS

During a psychology workshop I attended recently, the speaker asked "if you could prevent one event in your life from ever happening, what would you change?" My mind started resurfacing some of my darker memories. Memories stained with so much pain, I blocked them out for years.

But the events that ultimately lead up to these.... Would I delete them from my history?

When I was in treatment for anorexia, one of my therapists ran a group session called The Miracle Question. The question was "if you woke up tomorrow & everything was perfect, what would your life look like?" I couldn't tell you much more about this activity, because I dissociated from it completely. I was overwhelmed by feelings of hurt & fury, and I refused to participate. "How dare these people ask me to think about how far from ideal my life is? How does this help me???" I thought.

Back then, I was living in a state of avoidance & denial. My brain was saturated with depression & my life didn't feel worth living, so I spent most of my days living in the past, dissociating from reality & depending on my ED to pass the time.

Thankfully, ALOT has changed since then. Like learning to drive, my recovery didn't really start until I was discharged from treatment. It hasn't been a smooth process, but discovering Radical Acceptance really helped me. 
Life may well be easier if certain things had/hadn't happened. But my experiences have shaped me into the person I am today & I'm learning to accept this person as she is. There are still times when I wish things were different, but holding on to "what ifs" takes energy. And personally, I'd rather use that energy to make the most of the life I've been given.

I didn't answer the speakers question at the time, either. But this time it wasn't due to disengagement or anger; I was lost in contemplation of how much my mindset had changed since that group session... So, here's my reformed answer: "I have memories I never want to relive, but my past has lead me to where I am today. My life isn't perfect, but every darkness I've endured has also brought me light, and I love my light. I wouldn't risk any of that by changing my past."
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  • Never give up! 🌟💚
  • Never give up! 🌟💚
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  • This month, focus on:
    Dispossess the enemy of any possession of yours in his hand and declare that between now and the end of the year, you will possess your possessions. (Isaiah 61:7)

    Cancel any death assignment. Declare that none among us will be appointed to death. Declare no loss of life between now and the end of the year.(Psalm 102:20)

    Declare that no weapon, enchantment or divination formed against your leaders shall prosper. Lift of prayers of protection for the great men and women of God across the globe.(Numbers 23:23)

    Declare that the clouds will empty the rain of blessings over your life.(Ecclesiastes 11:3)

    Declare that the end of the year shall be better than the beginning. Declare you will finish the year strong. (Job 8:7)

    #2019 #xmas #christmas #letstokhaus #tokhaus #AskJB #newyear #newyearresolution #prayerpoint #hardtimes #lifelessons #diaspora #hardship #trial #tribulations #prayer #bible
  • This month, focus on: 
Dispossess the enemy of any possession of yours in his hand and declare that between now and the end of the year, you will possess your possessions. (Isaiah 61:7)

Cancel any death assignment. Declare that none among us will be appointed to death. Declare no loss of life between now and the end of the year.(Psalm 102:20)

Declare that no weapon, enchantment or divination formed against your leaders shall prosper. Lift of prayers of protection for the great men and women of God across the globe.(Numbers 23:23)

Declare that the clouds will empty the rain of blessings over your life.(Ecclesiastes 11:3)

Declare that the end of the year shall be better than the beginning. Declare you will finish the year strong. (Job 8:7)

#2019 #xmas #christmas #letstokhaus #tokhaus #AskJB #newyear #newyearresolution #prayerpoint #hardtimes #lifelessons #diaspora #hardship #trial #tribulations #prayer #bible
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  • twenty five
    I honestly don’t even know where to start. This year was a rollercoaster of emotions for me. I’ve said this before but honestly it took me 24 years to realize not everyone has the same heart & mind as you. It took me 24 years to also realize that not everyone wants the best for you only the ones closest & dearest to your heart. It was the year I learned most about myself. The year that I learned that nothing compares to self-love, healthy relationships and mental health. The year that I learned that you MUST take care of yourself in order to give; you cannot pour from an empty cup. The year that I learned not to belittle myself to fit into the lives of others- if I’m too much for them, their loss. The year that I aspired to want more for myself & my home. The year I learned that you can show your vulnerability as long as they know your strength. The year that I learned that no matter what you go through, you should never allow this world to make you cold. The year that went into shambles from school, to work , to friendships and overall health. The year that I weighed the most EVER in my life. The year that I allowed my body to be at its HEAVIEST. The year that loving myself was hard. The year that I built a stronger relationship with my husband and partner in everything in this life & the hereafter. The year that envy shed its skin all over my life. The year that keeping our success a secret , is worth it. This is the year that I learned I don’t really care what people think about me. The year I learned that not everyone I lose is a LOSS, sometimes it’s a blessing. This year, I’ve grown into the WOMAN I LITERALLY ALWAYS WANTED TO BE AND IM GOING TO BECOME MORE POWERFUL, MORE BAD ASS, MORE RESILIENT, MORE SUCCESSFUL, MORE HAPPY, MORE LOVING & most importantly I’m going to be that woman who takes care of the heart next to her because it’s the only heart that loves & cares with every inch of his body. Bring it on 25, I’m ready for you ✨ #Sagittarius #Birthdaygirl #LifeLessons
  • twenty five 
I honestly don’t even know where to start. This year was a rollercoaster of emotions for me. I’ve said this before but honestly it took me 24 years to realize not everyone has the same heart & mind as you. It took me 24 years to also realize that not everyone wants the best for you only the ones closest & dearest to your heart. It was the year I learned most about myself. The year that I learned that nothing compares to self-love, healthy relationships and mental health. The year that I learned that you MUST take care of yourself in order to give; you cannot pour from an empty cup. The year that I learned not to belittle myself to fit into the lives of others- if I’m too much for them, their loss. The year that I aspired to want more for myself & my home. The year I learned that you can show your vulnerability as long as they know your strength. The year that I learned that no matter what you go through, you should never allow this world to make you cold. The year that went into shambles from school, to work , to friendships and overall health. The year that I weighed the most EVER in my life. The year that I allowed my body to be at its HEAVIEST. The year that loving myself was hard. The year that I built a stronger relationship with my husband and partner in everything in this life & the hereafter. The year that envy shed its skin all over my life. The year that keeping our success a secret , is worth it. This is the year that I learned I don’t really care what people think about me. The year I learned that not everyone I lose is a LOSS, sometimes it’s a blessing. This year, I’ve grown into the WOMAN I LITERALLY ALWAYS WANTED TO BE AND IM GOING TO BECOME MORE POWERFUL, MORE BAD ASS, MORE RESILIENT, MORE SUCCESSFUL, MORE HAPPY, MORE LOVING & most importantly I’m going to be that woman who takes care of the heart next to her because it’s the only heart that loves & cares with every inch of his body. Bring it on 25, I’m ready for you ✨#Sagittarius #Birthdaygirl #LifeLessons
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  • Here's the thing about truth:
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    The phrase "my truth" honors the fact that what you went through and what happened to you and the if/thens that have played out in your life are REAL. It's all about perspective and impact.
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    "The truth" or absolute truth relates to the cold, hard facts. It doesn't shift if you're aware of it or not or if you believe in it or not. It is what it is because it is.
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    The whole point of your truth is to get aligned with absolute truth. They work together for a higher purpose.
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    Your story, your journey to God.
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    #TheDevoutLife is coming.
    Learn more and sign up for FREE at kforte.co
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    #goodmorning #saturdaymorning #happysaturday #weekendvibes #theweekend #soulpurpose #spiritualbossbabe #mytruth #honoryourtruth #absolutetruth #lifelessons #spiritualenlightenment
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  • Here's the thing about truth:
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The phrase "my truth" honors the fact that what you went through and what happened to you and the if/thens that have played out in your life are REAL. It's all about perspective and impact.
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
"The truth" or absolute truth relates to the cold, hard facts. It doesn't shift if you're aware of it or not or if you believe in it or not. It is what it is because it is.
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The whole point of your truth is to get aligned with absolute truth. They work together for a higher purpose.
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Your story, your journey to God.
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#TheDevoutLife is coming.
Learn more and sign up for FREE at kforte.co
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#goodmorning #saturdaymorning #happysaturday #weekendvibes #theweekend #soulpurpose #spiritualbossbabe #mytruth #honoryourtruth #absolutetruth #lifelessons #spiritualenlightenment
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  •  2  0 19 hours ago
  • In the midst of navigating transition and change it’s become so apparent how the mind gravitate’s to the familiar, how it try’s to cling on so desperately to any inch of comfort, how it analyses and second guesses the decisions that come from the heart. I’ve been doing a lot of work to disentangle from the minds egoic strategies, to embrace the intuitive path that continues to nudge me incessantly out into the unknown, to welcome the uneasiness, the challenges and obstacles along the way - for these all serve as the most fertile soil for growth, learning and discovery 🌱 poem by @danielledoby
  • In the midst of navigating transition and change it’s become so apparent how the mind gravitate’s to the familiar, how it try’s to cling on so desperately to any inch of comfort, how it analyses and second guesses the decisions that come from the heart. I’ve been doing a lot of work to disentangle from the minds egoic strategies, to embrace the intuitive path that continues to nudge me incessantly out into the unknown, to welcome the  uneasiness, the challenges and obstacles along the way - for these all serve as the most fertile soil for growth, learning and discovery 🌱 poem by @danielledoby
  •  1  1 19 hours ago
  • There's a story behind every person.
    There's a reason why they're the way they are.

    They aren't just like that because they want to.

    Something in the past created them

    and,

    sometimes it's impossible to fix them.

    To find inner peace ☮️, sometimes you have to be willing to lose your connection with the people, places and things that create all the noise in your life.
  • There's a story behind every person. 
There's a reason why they're the way they are.

They aren't just like that because they want to.

Something in the past created them

and,

sometimes it's impossible to fix them.

To find inner peace ☮️, sometimes you have to be willing to lose your connection with the people, places and things that create all the noise in your life.
  •  2  1 19 hours ago
  • Learning new things should be a life long passion.
  • Learning new things should be a life long passion.
  •  6  1 19 hours ago
  • I'll suggest this book to anyone who is going through a phase where we all feel we should change. This book has been a reality check for me and I'd want the same for you.

    Best wishes.
    Subham

    #goodvibes #lifelessons #books
  • I'll suggest this book to anyone who is going through a phase where we all feel we should change. This book has been a reality check for me and I'd want the same for you.

Best wishes.
Subham

#goodvibes #lifelessons #books
  •  1  0 19 hours ago
  • clap your hands if you have a resting bitch face and social anxiety so you come off cold/judgmental even though you’re sweating on the inside, praying the person you want to talk to comes up to you first. .
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    . 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 awkward potatoes united ™️. i’m overusing the “™️”. any-who, any-boo, 5 star 💫 example of my resting bitch face ⬆️⬆️⬆️ up here. (business talks are a pain bc people think i’m giving them a cold shoulder but no, buddy, it’s just my face and i’m afraid to speak up, it’s not you.)
  • clap your hands if you have a resting bitch face and social anxiety so you come off cold/judgmental even though you’re sweating on the inside, praying the person you want to talk to comes up to you first. .
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. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 awkward potatoes united ™️. i’m overusing the “™️”. any-who, any-boo, 5 star 💫 example of my resting bitch face ⬆️⬆️⬆️ up here. (business talks are a pain bc people think i’m giving them a cold shoulder but no, buddy, it’s just my face and i’m afraid to speak up, it’s not you.)
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  • It is said that hindsight has 20:20 vision. Really what has happened is we have learned from experience.
    Be gentle with yourself when it comes to regrets, as you were doing the best you could with what you knew or what you possessed at the time.

    Be grateful that you know better now 💖
  • It is said that hindsight has 20:20 vision. Really what has happened is we have learned from experience. 
Be gentle with yourself when it comes to regrets, as you were doing the best you could with what you knew or what you possessed at the time.

Be grateful that you know better now 💖
  •  1  1 19 hours ago
  • Created with the understanding of how busy everyone is. Together, we could Make a Marc on the World just by wearing underwear. Underwear that respects our home, the earth, in the luxurious eco-friendly way they’re made. Our real passion is making little Marcs together in the fight against hunger, sickness and pollution. $4 per pair to Save, Feed & Cure the World! #mademymarc #quote #quotes #quoteoftheday #lifelessons #regram
  • Created with the understanding of how busy everyone is. Together, we could Make a Marc on the World just by wearing underwear. Underwear that respects our home, the earth, in the luxurious eco-friendly way they’re made. Our real passion is making little Marcs together in the fight against hunger, sickness and pollution. $4 per pair to Save, Feed & Cure the World! #mademymarc #quote #quotes #quoteoftheday #lifelessons #regram
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